Why Social Platforms Are Stealing Your Happiness – And What To Do About It

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Do you spend a lot of time on social platforms such as Facebook or Instagram?

Would it come as any surprise if I told you social platforms could be making your depression worse?

Social media can flood you with emotions of jealousy, discontent and low self esteem, yet so many of us still find ourselves on these websites daily just killing time.

Rather than taking time to acquire the life we dream of, we stare at a screen admiring people who have already done it.

This does nothing to improve our self worth, move us closer to our goals, or improve our happiness.

To make matters worse, the dream lives of others we are viewing are nothing more than highlights of their lives.

Let’s take a look at how social media can make us feel worse than we already do.

 

Jealousy, Discontent, and Pressure

When spending time on social platforms you constantly see people who are happy and seemingly living the dream.

These people seem to have everything!

They are out having fun, they have a large social group, the most attractive partner, etc.

You look at them and think: “why don’t I have that?” or “why can’t I be more like them?”

What the world doesn’t tell you is that the feed you are wasting your time scrolling through is just highlights of peoples lives.

Besides a tragedy like the loss of a family member, how often do people post about negative things in their lives?

Sure there may be that one person who screams for attention, but I am talking about in general.

 

People want their lives to look attractive

Imagine two scenarios;

#1 The Single Person

You are a young single person, that being said you are definitely on the lookout for a partner.

Since you have many friends of the opposite sex on social media, you use your Facebook to make your life look enticing!

With an attractive looking lifestyle, it appears as though you would offer a pretty fun relationship.

Often reality offers a much different perspective.

Sure you may actually have a lot of friends and go to some big parties on the weekends, but you are far from content with your life.

Maybe you really hate your job or have no clue what you’re doing with your life.  Would you post this on Facebook?

Perhaps you even deal with depression or anxiety but are too scared to tell anyone about it.  Those crazy weekend parties on Facebook are simply your way of escaping reality.

This certainly wouldn’t make the Facebook feed.

 

#2 The Perfect Relationship

Of course every relationship looks perfect on social media.

Now imagine this is you in the relationship.

Would you post about how much you and your partner argue behind closed doors?

First of all, your partner likely wouldn’t appreciate you sharing this information.

Secondly, some people may even view this as an opportunity to get closer to your loved one and take advantage of the current weakness in your relationship.

Now, if we are going to post pictures at all, we are only left with one option…

#soulmates #love #togetherforever

 

Social Media Is Just Highlights

I have been blessed enough to spend some time travelling.  I saw some amazing places, met some amazing friends, and had many great experiences.

Guess what?  A lot of it ended up on Facebook.

You wouldn’t believe how many people back home told me I was living the dream.

While I had some of the best times of my life I still dealt with anxiety.  I dreaded having to return home to a job I hated and I missed my girlfriend everyday.

Life was good, but life is never perfect.

If you choose to use social media you must remember this:  Everyone goes through tough times in their life at one point or another.  These tough times just usually don’t end up on social media.

In reality everyone is discontent with some area of their lives.  It is human nature and is what causes us to make improvements within ourselves and in our lives.

 

Social Media and Self Esteem

Your self esteem can be chipped away pretty quick if you spend too much time on social platforms.

Do you feel down on yourself because you have less friends than most people?

Are you uncomfortable with your weight or height?

Do you judge your self-worth by the amount of materials you possess?

Social Media paints terrible images in our minds of what real happiness and self worth looks like.

According to Instagram you have to have the newest sports car, washboard abs, an entourage, and a private island.

Stop letting social media lie to you.

Real happiness comes from within.  You have to learn to be content with yourself first and understand that material objects and fake facades will not increase your self esteem.

If there is something you want in life, stop wasting time being envious of other people and start working for it.

Focus on you, never on them – Nick Kelly

Do you want to be fit? More financially stable? In a fantastic relationship?

If yes, then what are you waiting for? Start making steps today so you can be there next year!

Twitter wont help you, unfortunately.

 

Social Media Keeps Us Inside

Remember when you were young and social media wasn’t around?

Did you stay inside all day?  I know I didn’t.

Weather permitting, I was outside everyday hanging out with the kids in my local area.

We played ball hockey, soccer, rode bikes, went swimming and so on.

I would always find myself outside, enjoying fresh air and nature.

As adults it is harder to find the time but it isn’t any less essential to feeling good.

Social Media is robbing many people of this quality outdoor time, leaving you in a dark and stuffy room.

At the end of the day, you don’t feel like you have accomplished anything.  That won’t help your self worth one bit!

 

I challenge you to abandon all social platforms for an entire month.  

It may be tough at first but when you realize how much more you have accomplished and how much better you feel about yourself you may never go back.

 


 

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8 Comments

    • Hey Joyce, I don’t see why not! Maybe use it a tiny bit for content promotion but other than that it doesn’t offer a whole lot of benefits.

  1. Hi Alex,

    You’ve got very good points.

    In reality, the very people you think are really happy
    and have wonderful lives might be actually unhappy and
    live horrible lives.

    I remember when I spoke with the curator of our trade school
    in 2012. She told me she meets every week people who feel so
    bad they cry during the meeting- she even had a box of tissues
    on her desk ready for that.

    It’s fascinating how none of the people I saw everyday at school
    seemed emotionally distressed. But in reality some of those happy
    faces hid a lot of sorrow behind them.

    It’s just too easy to believe everyone else is happy and you’re not.

    The more we can focus on making ourselves better, the less
    important those Facebook statuses, vacation pictures and whatnot
    become. There’s no need to compare yourself to others when you actually
    feel good about yourself and your life, don’t you think?

    Social media can be a great tool, but also a terrible time waster.
    One might indeed be better off having a break from it.
    a lot better!

    • Thank you for the fantastic insight Tomas! I don’t even know what to say, this comment sums up the message I am trying to deliver 100%!

      Recently I have been opening up to those around me, and I can not believe how many people who I have known for long periods of time have dealt with similar
      issues as me and yet to bystanders we all look happy all the time.

      Absolutely love this comment, thanks again!

      • Thank you for your kind words, Alex. I really appreciate them!

        Actually, it’s best to contribute at least something to the post and the conversation that follows it and not just seek attention. Not just take, but give something, you know?

        Our senses can be deceiving. A cousin of mine committed suicide in 2002 without anyone suspecting anything. He seemed happy on the outside, but on the inside…he hid everything perfectly. Unexpected suicide is an extreme example of things looking normal when they aren’t.

        • Hey Tomas, sorry for the late response, I just noticed this now!

          It is amazing how many people hide their problems deep down, quite sad actually. I find through years of dealing with my own issues, I have a very strong sense of when other people are down or not their usual self, it has almost become like a sixth sense to me. Multiple times I have taken the time to ask someone if they were okay. Initially they always say no but eventually it usually ends up being a really deep conversation.

          Sorry to hear of your loss, I hope he is in a better place!

          • It’s okay, building this site surely takes a lot of work. You can’t be expected to always answer right away.

            Could it be perhaps the body language people show? It’s almost impossible to completely hide your true feelings. They always show through…at least a little bit.

            This cousin and I weren’t close, I don’t think we ever even talked, but nonetheless it was quite a shock. Suicide is far more horrible way of dying than a natural death could ever be.

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