Do you have a significant other, family member, or perhaps a close personal friend who just doesn’t seem to understand your mood disorder?
Do you often get asked “why don’t you just stop worrying” or “why don’t you just cheer up”
I understand these questions can be really frustrating and or upsetting.
You know as well as I do that there is no off switch. We do not choose to feel this way.
Sometimes it feels like the people we would often look to for support are the ones who feel the most separated from your problem.
I am lucky I am always able to talk to my mom. She has been through way more in the field of mental health issues than I think I could handle. She is my hero.
My girlfriend on the other hand, I feel like I have to tiptoe around my feelings sometimes.
She has never experienced anxiety, therefore she can not possibly provide the comfort or understanding I would hope to receive by opening up.
The fact that we feel this way beyond our will does not however give us the right to throw in the towel and do nothing about it for the rest of our lives
We need to fight for our well being by any means necessary.
See a doctor if you need medications.
Maybe you just need a new job that is less stressful or more fulfilling, maybe you need to get out of the house more, or maybe a sedentary lifestyle with drinking and poor diet is catching up with you.
Even gaining a new perspective on life and how well other areas of your life are may bring some peace.
Helping Others Understand Mood Disorders
- First try talking to them about it. If you have never sat down and explained what it is you actually deal with maybe they will be more open minded
- Show them information online in the form of what depression or anxiety feels like, what causes it, and even experiences of what other people deal with
“If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.
Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.” – Stephen Fry
- If you visit a therapist consider bringing them along. The therapist might do all the hard work for you.
On a final note I would for you to check out a video by one of my favorite channels on youtube on the subject.